~~ I have a Mom. She may not have given birth to me, and she may have only been in my life for the past 3 years, but she is indeed and without question “Mom”. ~~
I certainly could have sent her a Hallmark card along with some other gift via Canada Post (she lives 5 hours away) but I thought instead I’d write an open letter to her so she knows what she means to me, in case there’s ever any doubt.
I can’t say I ever had a Mom. Sure ~ my biological Mom was around now and then in my life, but the relationship just never worked, which was difficult as a child, challenging as a teenager, and sombering as an adult.
Disastrous “Mother” experiences happened throughout my life with past relationships and I settled on the fact that having a Mother/Daughter bond with someone was just not in my cards. I envied friends that were close with their Mom or Mom In Laws, and deep down had an odd curiosity on why it was I just couldn’t experience this in my 40 years of life.
Then along came you! When your Son wanted to “bring me home” to meet the parents, I got that uncomfortable feeling, the queasiness settled in, the all familiar heart racing and sweaty palms and thought of how Mom’s and I just never got along. I loved him though, and regardless of how you and I would feel about each other after we met, I knew it was important to him and I mustered up a “sure, sounds great” and packed for our weekend away to meet “The Mom”.
Mom, from the moment we met, I knew I was home. Our connection was a great one and you welcomed me as though I’d been in your family for a lifetime. Thank you for that. That very moment and each one thereafter I cherish more than you’ll ever know. I meant each and every word of the email I sent you after our first visit those years ago:
- She lets me call her my mom.
- She puts up with me.
- She calls me “kid” even at my age.
- She has a heart of gold.
- She loves Dairy Queen, even more than I do.
- She makes a delicious, addictive cheesecake that I just can’t duplicate.
- She accepts teasing when my Dad In Law & I get together for a “Dianne” moment.
- She’s really good at listening to my long winded stories.
- She knows a lot of home cures that actually work.
- She can make a bag of candy disappear like magic.
- She doesn’t ever worry about makeup and is so beautiful without.
- She’s practical in every way.
- You’ll never catch her bare foot and she now has me slipper obsessed.
- She has a smile that lights up a room.
- She’s her own woman.
- She handles her husband like a champion.
- She appreciates family.
- She can shop a mall like nobody’s business.
- She is always learning and teaching.
- She can talk about knitting, baking, and any book you want to know about.
- She has a knack for picking out unique presents for me.
- She surprises me.
- She is always encouraging.
- She never tells anyone what to do, but offers the best motherly advice.
- She makes delicious dinners that make you go back for 2nds, 3rds, & even 4ths.
- She’s easily amused.
- She has a lousy memory, and it’s endearing.
- She has incredible taste in decorating.
- She has a kindness about her rarely found in people.
- She appreciates corny jokes and puns.
- She’s going to be an amazing Grandmother and has had a great trial run with Mattie
- She’s very good with kids and pets.
- She has a lot of imagination.
- She obviously loved her parents very much.
- She is full of love.
- She’s very patient.
- She’s incredibly observant.
- She wonders about things others don’t wonder about.
- She likes to make things from scratch.
- She gives me long lasting marriage tips and tricks.
- She is generous.
- She doesn’t lay guilt trips.
- She’s done an amazing job taking care of her family.
- She was the best hockey Mom.
- She reads a lot of different types of books.
- She shares with me interesting stories about her life.
- She makes me laugh hysterically.
- She has raised a son that turned into my incredible husband .
- She doesn’t take herself super seriously.
- She’s awesome.